Where the hell I have been and why your order isn't done yet

I am not sure if my email auto-reply message is working and my website notice is minimal, so I am posting this on the websites most frequented by my customers.

Unfortunately I have been hit with a barrage of issues lately which have kept me away from work. In early October I was told that my father was not doing well and I should get up to NH (where he and Mom retired) as soon as possible. I returned to TX on Oct 8 and had back surgery on Oct 10. Dad passed on October 13, 2023. I was unable to attend his service. On November 13, 2023 my mother passed. I was able to drive up for her service.

There have been many phone calls, emails, letters, forms and trips between TX and NH to settle their estate, clean out the house, etc. Last month I drove to NH one last time for their interment on April 30 at the Veteran’s Cemetery in Boscawen NH and to bring the final truck load (mostly from Dad’s garage) home.

Friday morning (5/3) we were just south of Dallas when we stopped for fuel and I returned a call from a neighbor. He said he noticed our front door open Thursday evening and it was still open when he went by that morning. I called Cheryl (my wife) and got no answer. That’s not unusual - if she’s driving or doing something she wouldn’t answer. I figured she was feeding the animals or taking a shower. When we talked Thursday night she said that she wasn’t feeling right and was going to bed early. I called again 15 minutes later, no answer. Another 15 minutes, no answer. Texted her, no answer. Checked with work to see if she had been called in. No. I am 150 miles away and getting worried. I asked an ex-cop friend of hers (‘C’) to go over since the dogs know her so she can get into the house and Cheryl is less apt to shoot someone she knows if surprised.

C calls me back - she’s in the house, Cheryl is on the bedroom floor barely responsive and she has called 911. Her insulin pump is on the bed, empty. Cheryl is a Type 1 diabetic so no pump is bad. We hang up, I tell my sister and B-I-L driving the truck what I know and hit the gas. While I am driving home the ambulance arrives and takes Cheryl to the ER 35 miles away. I get to the house, take care of the animals, and head to the ER.

Apparently Cheryl had had a heart attack Thursday night after we talked and she had layed on the floor all night with no insulin and gone into Diabetic KetoAcidosis (DKA). Her pump was off because it was time to refill it. DKA occurs when your blood sugar gets too high and ketos build up in your blood. Basically the body is poisoning itself. One of the side effects of DKA is dehydration which leads to low blood pressure, and things go downhill from there. After 14 IV bags of fluid her BP would still not come up. They decided that they needed to get her to a cardiologist at the main hospital in Abilene ASAP. About this time the nasty torrents of rain got here. No helicopter, she has to go by ambulance.

Long story shortened: ICU, IVs, three stents, more IVs, more drugs, lots of observation, driving 2 hours each way every day. I finally brought her home Saturday night (5/11).

All this came out of the blue because as a Type 1 diabetic for 40+ years and a Nurse, Cheryl does all the right things: stays in shape, eats right, exercises, etc. and had no prior symptoms at all.

To top it all off the hills behind my place had massive run-off and it went through my shop. No damage to anything, all of the important stuff is up off the ground, but the cleanup is just one more thing on my long list of things to deal with.

So, now you know why orders are backed up, emails and phone calls are not getting answered right away and I have not been around.

This is the message that should be on the website and auto-replying to emails: .
I will be completing orders as soon as I can, but cannot guarantee delivery dates. If you have already placed an order and sent in your gauge(s) and need them for car season, I understand. If you ask, I will ship your gauge(s) back to you and hold the order open until you send it in again. This will guarantee your price, as the latest smack in the face is a major increase in prices so I will be raising mine when I can get to it.

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Wow Bob! Caring thoughts coming your way. Glad to hear Cheryl was able to get help in time. I’m sorry about everything else you’ve had to deal with.

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Bob you need a vacation and a half… Don’t even know where to begin. Is there anything that we can do here to help you pull things together?

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Man that’s rough! Hang in there and I’m sure all those here will understand. Not sure how this community could be of help but please speak up if there is something you need or n these rough times.

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Our thoughts are with you and Cheryl. As others have said, if there’s anything any of us can do to help please advise.
Best regards, Jim & Elaine Pinkerton

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Take all the time you need. The Cougars and owners will still be here when you get back :slight_smile: Hope life smooths out a bit for you in the future!

Mike B.

When it rains it pours sometimes. Sorry for so many hardships to fall on shoulders in such a short time.

Thoughts and prayers from the other side of the globe. Hang in there mate

I wish there was geeky kid on your block that could learn how to do this and you could pass it on.

There is a guy not far from me.

He restores old porche tire jacks. Haven’t seen him in awhile though.

prayers for you and your family.

I’m so sorry to hear about your circumstances all the way around.

Sorry for your losses and hope you have a better rest of the year.

I am finally home after having surgery to fix my kidneys. So far so good, hopefully I can get things back to normal work-wise fairly quickly. Now for the PSA:

My Father started suffering from early onset dementia due to Alzheimer’s when he was 63 years old. Most noticeable was forgetting things like where he left his keys, then he started forgetting to do things or thinking that he already had. The worst was when he forgot how to do things he had always done.

Last summer I noticed that I was getting more forgetful. Things I have built for years suddenly made no sense and I had to consult my ‘how to build’ sheets from years ago. I didn’t say anything because I was scared to death that I would end up like Dad and we all know that ignoring a problem makes it go away, right?

So in my mind I attributed it to all the other things going on over the previous few months and working too much. I figured once I got caught up things would even out again. Then I started noticing that things weren’t getting done. I would kit an order, start on it and not complete it, then go back a few days later and be surprised that it wasn’t done and finish it.

In early October one of our dogs ran full speed into the side of Cheryl’s leg and broke her tibial plateau (basically her knee). I vaguely remember taking her to the ER that night, but nothing after that. Since Cheryl was now home all the time she started noticing things weren’t right with me.

From what she tells me that it was really weird watching me work because I could accept orders, write them up, receive them, mark them and start kitting them just like normal, but the kits were incomplete because I was running out of parts that I had forgotten to reorder. I don’t really remember much of July through September and nothing in October after taking Cheryl to the ER…

This part is what I have been told by Cheryl and medical staff: About 3 days after Cheryl’s knee was broken Cheryl made me take her to the ER again. Once there she checked me in as being ‘in an altered mental state’. Apparently I thought she was one of my sisters, had no idea where I was, what day it was or why I was in an ER.

Luckily an alert Dr ran some blood tests and found that I had been in renal failure for an extended period. According to ER staff I was in the ‘24 hour window’ of checking out permanently. So they did some emergency surgery and found that the tube that goes from the kidney to bladder on the left side was completely blocked and that kidney had stopped functioning and was presumed dead. The right kidney was struggling, but so clogged with stones that it was a miracle it was working. I woke up a couple of days later with tubes in me and and a collection bag on me.

Now I am home, no tubes, no bag and two functioning kidneys. They sent me home with some pills, told me to rest until I felt up to it, then resume normal activities. I guess The Good Lord saw my backlog and figured I really needed to get back to work.

After finally getting to my PC and reading through the 400+ emails I received while out of commission I am sure that all the prayers and good wishes certainly helped - thank you all for them!

So what’s the purpose of this long winded story? Guys (and maybe girls) - Don’t ignore the little things as you get older. I know it’s natural to tough it out, ignore the pain, etc. But as we get older that little thing may be a warning of bigger, badder things. I ignored my back pain because I had back surgery a year ago, so I self diagnosed it as needing more exercise. I ignored the forgetfulness and loss of dexterity as over work and stiff fingers and it damn near killed me. Listen to your body, get regular exams, tell your Dr when things aren’t right.

To all of you that emailed and texted me with prayers and good wishes - THANK YOU.

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Welcome back and don’t do that again! oh my…

You’ve been through a rough time…to say the least. Clear skies ahead to you and your family.

Glad you are feeling better.
Going to see my doctor next month.

All the best,
Jim

Wow glad you are OK Bob! That is a lot of stuff!

I would have never thought renal issues could affect your memory. Thank you for sharing. The yearly physical is so important, mostly because of the blood test…

Wishing you a speedy recovery, Bob. Just don’t over-do it. Hopefully you and Cheryl will get some space soon. Might be about time for a trip to Aruba?

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Holy cow! Glad you are on the mend and things turned out well! Scary stuff, for sure.

My Dad always told me “getting old sucks”… and he started saying that in his 30’s! LOL!